Hi! If you don’t know me, my name is Jamie and you can find me over at @jamie.devergillo on instagram, where I share pieces of my life with you. Come say hi! I can’t believe it has been over one month since our beautiful wedding on September 26th. We are still in awe of how perfect the day was and honestly would not change a thing. From the details coming together, the 73 degree weather, our closest family and friends surrounding us, amazing music and I can go on and on and on. It was a truly a day that I will remember forever and we have so many memories from it. I wanted to share a little bit about our wedding, in hopes that if you are wondering about the logistics and costs of a backyard wedding, I can help you out a little. We had originally planned for 150+ guests, but due to covid and safety reasons we has to scale the wedding back and had 75 guests. We provided masks, hand sanitizer and we encouraged social distancing.
Please keep in mind that we do live in New Jersey, where cost’s are a little high. I also want to preface that I am very lucky to have the space that we got married in. We got married in front of the barn my Poppy built and then we walked across the field to celebrate in my parent’s backyard. I do believe that this kind of backyard wedding can be beautiful in any backyard, but I am truly lucky to have grown up in this open space. I also want to mention that we had my good friend Lauren, who has an eye for design, help us out tremendously with decor and set up. We could not have pulled off such a beautiful wedding without her and saved tons of money by not having to hire a wedding planner or buy a lot of decor. My dad also had his good friend at L&A tent company help us out with costs ($1000) for rentals of chairs, tables, lighting and the cute bathroom! I will be sharing ballpark costs, but please remember that each vendor will fluctuate, based on your own wants and needs. My mother is obsessed with budgeting and excel worksheets and she helped us keep the wedding within our budget! Okay, so now that you have a little background, let’s get into it! I can’t wait to share our vendors and show you photos!
The ceremony was in my Nana’s backyard, in front of the beautiful red barn that my poppy built. I have always dreamed of having my wedding here since I was a little girl. My dad grew up in my Nana’s house and when my parents got married, my Nana and Poppy gifted my parents half of their farm land, for them to build a house on. My father and poppy built the house I grew up in, just a short walk through the field. As a little girl I would spend a lot of time with Nana and Poppy and would run across the field to visit them, this was where I walked down the aisle, with my dad by my side. My dad whispered as we were walking down, “don’t be nervous, you have walked down this aisle thousands of times, you got this”. After the ceremony, our guests walked across the field to my parent’s backyard. Everything was open air. We had socially distant tables, hay bails for people to sit on, cocktail tables for people to enjoy drinks, a picnic blanket space and more. I am one lucky girl to have had the chance to get married where I did. Cost: $0
THANK YOU to my very good friend Lauren at @laurenstewarthome for all the help with decor! Lauren watched facebook marketplace like a hawk for amazing pieces, her father dropped off garage sale items that we used and she came over and brought so much of her own decor and helped set up everything the day of. This wedding would not have been so beautiful and have such simple and amazing touches without her. I was obsessed with the detail, all of the signs she made for us and every placement of decor. I am so appreciative of her because this is really how I was able to tie my visions all together. Cost: $0 (this probably would of cost about $2500+ if we went with a day of wedding planner to set everything up and paid for all of the decor)
Dress and Hair:
I LOVED my dress. I first went to White House Bride the day before Thanksgiving with my mom and my MOH. I thought I would just look around and try on a few things and then come back another day. The dress I chose was the third dress I tried on and I ended up pulling the trigger that day. I said YES to the dress almost instantly! White House Bride and the owner Stacy were amazing throughout my whole process. Always making sure I was comfortable, making sure I felt beautiful each time, and ensuring my dress fit perfectly before the big day. I went with a Essense of Australia lace ballgown that looked A-line. It fit my waist perfectly, had shiny straps and then a full skirt with tulle and gorgeous train. It was so ME, but a little something extra and I felt beautiful in it. When Mark turned around for the first look he said, “woah, this dress was made for you!” Cost includes dress, alterations and bustle. Cost: $2200
My bridesmaids wore dresses from David’s Bridal they all picked out their own style, but all had the color Merlot on. Each bridesmaid looked absolutely gorgeous and I am so happy with the color choice for Fall!
For my hair, I searched #njbride until I landed on Samantha’s page at Brides By Sette. I knew I wanted Sam to do my hair and my bridesmaids because of her photos! She actually showed the front views of her previous brides hair. I fell in love with her personality and the beautiful work on her page. Everyone was so happy with their hair and we all felt beautiful! I went for a Taylor Swift vibe hair style which was loose and pulled back but not toooo curly. Thank you Sam! Price includes a trial and day of style. Cost: $260
To say I was obsessed with my flowers is an understatement. Jing, the owner of Hex Acres went above and beyond and she pulled my entire vision together. Jing was amazing to work with from the start, she sent us a proposal right away and I knew I wanted to work with her. Her detail, organization, way she pulled my vision together and willingness to work within my budget, I can’t thank her enough. I LOVE flowers and knew I wanted ones with color yet simple and beautiful that they were not overwhelming. The flowers on the barn door are were my favorite part and my Nana has not stopped raving about them. Follow Hexacres for tons of inspiration and if you’re getting married in the tri-state area, you must reach out! Let these pictures speak for themselves. WOW. Cost: $2500
Food and Drinks:
For food, we did not want a sit down dinner (due to covid). We really wanted a more cocktail and mingle style party (we wrote this on invitations by saying, “cocktail reception to follow”, so that guests did not expect a full steak dinner). We chose Falco’s Catering who served hors d’oeuvres for 2 hours. Their staff was amazing and safe and set up tables with the hors d’oeuvres we picked out, guests came up and chose what they wanted and they walked away with a full plate of food. We picked 13 different hot and cold hors d’oeuvres and they even made lumpia (a filipino favorite) for us! They also had cheese plates for each guest and finished the night off with serving coffee. Heather was amazing to work with throughout the process to ensure everything went smoothly! We had one chef, three wait staff and one drink staff. This price included linens for 14 tables, plates, utensils, and napkins. Cost: $3600
Next up we had a Pizza Vita food truck come for 2 hours! This was a guest favorite. Each guest came up to the food truck and picked from their five choices of delicious brick oven pizza. Plain, Margherita, Pepperoni, Sausage and Mushrooms with Truffle Oil. Each guest walked away with their very own personal pizza box of their choice. Mark and I had a few slices at the wedding but also brought a full box of pizza to enjoy at the hotel. It was SOOO yummy! Cost: $1500
We ended the night with ICE CREAM COOKIE SANDWICHES. Lexylicious came for the last hour and served warm cookies with ice cream for each guest out of their adorable pink ice cream truck. This was so much fun and we decided to have this instead of cake! Mark and I shared a confetti cookie with cookies and cream ice cream! I remember it tasting soooo yummy and we def should of got a second one! Cost: $900 (we had a 10% off coupon)
For alcohol, we had to buy it all! We had everything as a self serve station where you can come up and get your own drink. We had a signature drink called “The Bedminster Tea”, which was iced tea, lemonade and Titos. (guest fave!) We also had white claws, beer, wine, soda and water. Our favorite part was the Whiskey & Cigar cart that came out towards the end of the night, everyone LOVED this! Cost: $950
We used Posh DJ’s and Christian was amazing! We knew that we wanted to keep a DJ, even though things looked a little different. We loved Christian’s vibe and how he listened to our safety needs. He played all the songs we loved + added more to keep the good vibes going! Posh DJ’s was amazing to work with and incredibly organized and talented. I can’t suggest them enough for your wedding music! Cost: $ 2500
As you can see throughout this entire blog post, Lauren Anzevino is SO TALENTED. I have been using Lauren as my photographer for over a year now and she makes everyone feel so comfortable. Mark was so nervous for our engagement photos and after meeting Lauren and having our session, he felt extremely comfortable and had so much fun. Lauren captured our wedding, our emotions, our detail and our JOY throughout our wedding day and I can never thank her enough. Lauren is your GO TO photographer if you live in NJ or NYC. She is amazing and a pleasure to work with every single time. Now how will I choose which photos to hang in our home and print in a book?! All are absolutely breathtaking, thank you! We had 7 hours of shooting. Cost: $2200
Ugh, it was amazing reliving the wedding again through photos. It was the best day ever and felt like a fairy tale. Thank you to all our family, friends and loved ones for making this day so special. I hope you take the time to check out these vendors if you are having an upcoming New Jersey wedding. All of them were honestly 10/10 and I could not ask for anything better. Our goal was to stay under $20,000 for the wedding and we averaged around $16,600, which includes everything listed above. We are very lucky to have already had the beautiful farm venue and many connections between my dad’s friends and our own. I hope this helped a little with the ballpark of costs for a backyard wedding in New Jersey. It is 100% doable to have under $20,000 and there are many pieces that can be taken out or added in to stay within your own budget. Please feel free to ask any questions and check out my instagram for next chapter updates. Click here for more photos!